How can you re-learn how to trust after infidelity? You must be feeling betrayed and intensely hurt by your partners cheating.
Your spouse has come clean and opened up to cheating and you have both chosen to rekindle your relationship. This is certainly a significant start, however, where on earth do you go from here? Can you simply forgive and forget?
You need to be conscious of the very typical misconceptions on how to trust again after infidelity. This can stop you from falling into the very same trap that many have fallen into and ending up frustrated and also heartbroken when everything doesn’t work out.
How To Trust After Infidelity –
1. You Must Make Sense Of The Affair To Help You Trust Again
Don’t try to make sense out of nonsense. Trying to rationalize your cheating spouse’s behaviour or sympathizing with him/her is quite pointless. Don’t bother blaming yourself either.
It’s not your fault. The bottom line is, it never okay to have an affair to solve problems that exist in your marital relationship.
2. Trust You Spouse If He/she Is Sorry And Has Promised Not To Cheat Again
Remember the old adage “actions speak louder than words.” It’s not enough for your spouse to say sorry and promise not to cheat again. They must cut contact with ‘the other person’ completely.
This is the only to heal your relationship and start trusting again. You can’t work on dealing with the consequences of the affair while you’re still having it.
3. Time Will Help Me Trust Again
Is time a great healer? My thinking is that time repairs very little. It is actually just what you achieve with that time that makes a difference.
Never allow time to pass by and expect that the pain and hurt will go away. Start working on your relationship. Small steps like taking time to talk to your spouse every day will go a long way in helping you rebuild trust and rekindle your marriage.
Did you know that one in 3 marriages splits up year after year? Please don’t turn out to be another statistic. You ought to begin doing something today to halt the damage resulting from your husband’s cheating and Repair the rift that may be tearing the two of you apart.
Are you feeling emotionally disconnected from your significant other? Do you want to throw everything away because you’d prefer to feel like a helpless victim rather than do something about it?